A Busty Girl’s Challenge
Everyone sexualizes having a large breast. Most men crave them and some women envy them but no one seems to acknowledge the challenges that comes with them. As a woman with more than an average large breast, I can personally attest to the many challenges I face with my girls. I am overall a very confident female, who believes I am beautiful but I cant help but wish I didn’t have to carry around these M cups. Yes you read right “M Cups”!
Unlike the average female I am not able to shop at most bra stores, so I don’t own Victoria Secret bras; since they don’t carry my size. I wasn’t always this big though; I was actually a DD cup before I had my son. I must admit, that while having such large boobs can cause some discomfort and pain, there are benefits to having them. However, I think the bad outweighs the good.
My biggest challenge with having large breast is of course finding affordable bras that actually fits correctly. Although I pay more than $60 Canadian dollars for one bra I still am missing that comfort fit. Like many women in my situation, I struggle to find clothes suitable for my size; since everything I wear needs to accommodate a bra. This limits me in so many ways and definitely affects my self confidence at times. As a result I am always looking to find clothing that will make my breasts look smaller.
The undeniable pain that comes with large breast is sometimes overlooked by many, especially a partner who is in love with them. Some men only sees the comfort and pleasure in a woman’s chest but never stops to think of the pain she must be experiencing from them. I often have intense shoulder and back pain, especially if I stand for long periods of time. This limits the type of jobs I can do, for example I couldn’t be a waitress since that job requires you to stand for long periods. The worst part about this is the lack of acknowledgement that society gives to women in my condition.
Since women with large breasts are overly sexualize then you would think that we would feel sexy and confident with them especially during sex. But for me personally, all I want to do is hide them during intercourse. To be honest and fair my husband is absolutely in love with them and tries his best to let me know that; but there is something about my boobs falling off to the sides that just doesn’t seem sexy to me.
I struggle also with my workout at the gym since I am constantly trying to prevent my boobs from falling out when I jump. A normal sports bra doesn't really secure my breast during workout. However I was able to find the “stay in place” bra that worked perfectly for me. The strength of these bras are unmatched.
How do I manage to go on you might ask, with all that said, I have still found ways to live with them and have accepted who I am. I discovered a new type of adhesive bra that was able to hold my girls up and allowed me to go braless, wearing even backless dresses.
I must admit that it took courage for me to write this article because I feared that many will view this issue as frivolous. I even found it difficult to tell my doctor about this issue, luckily I did. He has since recommended me for a breast reduction surgery which will be covered by Provincial Health. In the interim, I am just finding ways to live and cope with my girls.
